Child Aggression
“Do you know what child aggression actually is?”
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When children suddenly lose connection with their parents, elders, friends or loved ones and feel tense, frightened or isolated they lash out in anger by swearing, kicking, shouting or throwing objects around or fighting with other children.
These tantrums seen in a child could be termed as aggression. Sometimes these aggressive bouts can reach frightening levels and parents feel helpless and unable to help them.
Causes:
The acts are mostly not premeditated or within the child’s control. Sometimes circumstances beyond anyone’s control can trigger off child aggression. Frightening experiences or watching parents fight or a loved one going away and leaving them behind could be some of the reasons.
Sometimes any disability if not detected and treated may lead to aggression. A toddler especially may become aggressive when he is angry or helpless and cannot express himself verbally. Very often, watching TV can also influence the behavior of a child. The violence and aggression shown on TV can lead the child to think that what is shown on TV is permitted behavior and he/she can follow the same pattern to get attention.
Another important reason for aggressive behavior is when parents decide to get divorced or separated. It has been noticed that very often the arrival of a sibling may make a child feel suddenly neglected and inadequate and also insecure.
To draw attention to himself he may suddenly start to antagonize others and involve himself in fighting or instigating fights or arguments. He may even start threatening others verbally and physically, as he suddenly feels less self confident and tries to gain it through aggressive behavior.
Remedy:
First of all the parents should develop an empathy with the child, help him to understand the behavior of others and teach him to distinguish between right and wrong. He should also be taught to understand how people feel when they are treated badly.
Such children require a stable environment with adequate discipline. Spanking has an adverse effect and should be avoided unless absolutely required. With patience this aggression can be adequately controlled. The parent should be firm but gentle as child aggression succumbs to gentleness.
Further, the parents and the child should sit together and have a one to one discussion so as to instill in him his importance to them. They should provide him with opportunities to excel, praise him for it so that he redevelops his self esteem and feels warm and cherished and wanted. Providing activities to a child that will bring forth his activities in a positive way will definitely put an end to child aggression.
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